When kiddo was little, very little, I used to do something that I am not proud of. I used to squeeze her hand to let her know that what she was doing or saying was not right. Example – if we were at a party and I was chatting with someone (a grown up) and she interrupted, I would squeeze her hand to let her know that her behavior was not okay.
One day when I picked her up from preschool, she was walking hand in hand with a friend and I was chatting with the mom. Suddenly, we heard a shriek coming from the other kid. My kiddo had squeezed his hand because he was saying something she did not like. Naturally, I was upset and embarrassed.
Basically, that day I realized that she was my mirror and that I needed to first look within myself before correcting her.
Reminds me of a story in Taosim – if you are making photo copies and there is an error in the copy, what will you do? The right answer is to correct the original and the copy.
Since then, I have internalized this message and have become a better parent (ahem)! If I am getting ready to preach kiddo a sermon, I ask myself if I need to hear the sermon first?
A good parenting lesson, yes?